Past, current, and future Jaw Surgery patients Unite!
159061
Member
I believe when changement comes a bit of dissatisfaction initially is normal, since you see your face very swelled and you get down.
still, i believe after our surgery we should stop looking in mirrors and taking pictures to see whats wrong with us and just accept ourselves as we will be, hoping it will be easy.
Zerka
Member
Aww, I love this topic and I'm happy to find other people out there in the same situation as me.
Regardless of doctors my parents still do not want me to have surgery and every time I bring up the topic a fight ensues. I was told as a child I had an underbite and had a facial appliance at 7 which did help bring my top jaw forward. At age 16 I had a very slight underbite and my teeth sat uncomfortably directly meeting on top of one another. My parents were immediately like NO SURGERY when the doctors addressed it and my parents told me all kinds of horrible things that would happen to me if I had surgery. Due to these fears I told the doctors I didn't want surgery and would just have braces.
I'm almost 22 now and I'm starting to really experience the problems the doctors said I would. I grind my teeth really badly, my face hurts, I've chipped my teeth more than once, and I only eat on one side of my mouth now. Not to mention I'm not pleased with my physical appearance, my sunken cheeks, large chin, and unflattering profile.
My parents always say I look "fine" and that I'm "an attractive girl", which I appreciate, I don't think I'm horrible looking but they make me feel like I'm so selfish and superficial. They tell me I must wait and have the surgery once I'm on my own and while I suppose that's okay, I feel that now is the prime time to start. Who knows how long I'd need braces for even before the surgery? I'm almost done with my degree and I want to get a job and my own place next year. I feel that now is really the time to get this stuff done so I can recover and enjoy my new bite and profile. I want their support and their love during surgery, especially one as invasive as this. I want it to be a positive experience (if this makes sense) instead of one where if I have pain they retort with "well, you wanted the surgery".
Perhaps I will explain myself better through a letter and they can have the time to think it over my point of view.
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